For Birth Moms

The Decision to Place for Adoption

1. How did you come to the decision to place your child for adoption? Was it a decision you made alone, or did others influence you?

2. What factors played the biggest role in your choice—personal circumstances, support (or lack of support), financial stability, age, etc.?

3. Did you explore other options before deciding on adoption? If so, what led you to choose adoption in the end?

4. How much agency did you feel you had in the adoption process? Were you able to choose your child’s adoptive family or set terms for openness?

Life After Placement

5. What has life been like for you since placing your child for adoption?

6. How have your feelings about adoption changed over time, if at all?

7. What was the most challenging part of post-placement life that you weren’t prepared for?

8. Did you have support after placement, either emotionally, financially, or through counseling? What helped you most in your healing journey?

Speaking to Your Child & Connection

9. If you could speak to your child today, what would you want them to know?

10. Have you had any contact with your child (if in an open adoption)? What has that experience been like?

11. If you have not had contact, do you hope to reconnect one day? How do you think you would approach it?

12. What is something you hope your child never doubts about your love or your decision?

Challenges & Growth

13. How has placing your child for adoption impacted your identity and sense of self?

14. Have you encountered judgment or stigma as a birth mother? How do you handle it?

15. What do you wish people truly understood about being a birth mom?

16. Has your experience with adoption changed the way you view motherhood, family, or relationships?

Healing & Reflection

17. Has writing or sharing your story helped in your healing journey? If so, how?

18. What advice would you give to another woman considering adoption for her child?

19. If you could go back in time, would you do anything differently?

20. What is something you’ve learned about love, sacrifice, or resilience through your journey as a birth mom?

For Birth Dads

The Adoption Process & Your Role

1. What role did you play in the adoption process? Were you involved in the decision, or was it made without you?

2. Did you feel you had enough support or information about your rights and options?

3. Looking back, do you feel your voice was heard in the adoption plan? Why or why not?

4. How did you process the reality of your child being placed for adoption?

Life After Placement

5. How has your experience as a birth father shaped your life and relationships?

6. What emotions have you struggled with the most since the adoption took place?

7. Has anyone ever dismissed or minimized your feelings about being a birth dad? If so, how did you handle it?

8. Have you found ways to honor or stay connected to your child in your own way?

Speaking to Your Child & Connection

9. If you had the opportunity to speak to your child, what would you say?

10. If you have an open adoption, what has the experience been like for you?

11. If you have not had contact, do you hope for a reunion one day? How do you imagine that moment?

12. What is something you hope your child always understands about your decision and your love for them?

Challenges & Misconceptions

13. What has been the hardest part of being a birth father?

14. Have you faced societal stigma or judgment for being a birth dad? How do you respond to it?

15. What do you think people misunderstand about birth fathers?

16. How has this experience changed how you view fatherhood and family?

Healing & Reflection

17. Have you been able to find support as a birth father? If so, where?

18. What advice would you give to another man who is navigating the adoption process as a birth father?

19. If you could go back in time, what would you do differently, if anything?

20. What has this experience taught you about love, responsibility, or resilience?

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